Getting Curious

Ceara Deno, MD • June 17, 2021
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Getting Curious

WHY?


Toddlers ask that a lot.


It’s genius, really. 


Humor me for a second here. 


I’d like you to imagine your biggest parenting challenge right now.  The challenge that makes you so anxious you try not to think about it, or you think about it obsessively. 


Why are you having this challenge right now? 


Why is this issue so hard for you?  Why is it so triggering?


Why do you have this problem? 


What will happen if you address it?  What will happen if you don’t?


What does it feel like to have this problem?  What are you believing about yourself?  What are you believing about your child? 


Underneath the challenge is a STORY you are believing.  Sometimes that story is HELPFUL to solve the problem.  Sometimes it isn’t, so we can shift to a different story that IS SUPPORTIVE. 

 

But the first step is unearthing all the hopes and fears that are under the challenge and getting curious.


It all starts with asking the questions and finding out WHY.

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