Lousy local conditions affect parents too

Ceara Deno, MD • June 30, 2021
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Lousy local conditions affect us too

Lousy local conditions affect us as parents too.


Every parent knows our kid's behavior is affected by the “local conditions.” 


After a sleepover, for example, your child is likely to be cranky from lack of sleep.  Lousy local conditions. 


In the checkout line, your daughter is more likely to have a meltdown when she sees the candies she can't have.  Lousy local conditions.


But lousy local conditions affect US as parents too.


Bad night’s sleep?  Haven’t eaten?  Running late?  Critical email from the boss?  Argument with a partner?


These are “lousy local conditions” too.  Of course we don't function optimally when we are feeling stressed either.


It’s OK to cut yourself some slack.  Parents have meltdowns too.  It's OK.  It’s those lousy local conditions.  They affect us all. 



Forgive yourself, apologize if needed, and keep going.

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