What does it mean to be lovable even when you behave poorly?
I love Alfie Kohn. He is an amazing author and one of my absolute favorite parenting thought leaders, and an advocate of making sure kids know we love them unconditionally, especially when they behave in ways we would rather they not behave.
He emphasizes “working with kids” when they are struggling with their behaviors, rather than “doing things TO them,” like giving punishments.
True unconditional love means you are lovable even when you behave poorly. Isn’t that what we all need?
Overwhelmed by your child’s behavior? Learn how small, manageable parenting shifts can help you get unstuck, reduce guilt, and build lasting change.
Feeling overwhelmed parenting a highly sensitive child? Learn why waiting to get support can keep you stuck—and how getting help now can bring more calm and connection.
When kids say hurtful things like “I hate you,” they may be expressing overwhelm, shame, or disappointment. Learn how to hear the feelings beneath hurtful, angry words.
Many parents worry about their child’s anger. Learn why anger can actually serve an important purpose for highly sensitive kids and what it may be telling you.
Is your child highly sensitive, have ADHD, or both? Learn how to understand big emotions, power struggles, and overwhelm, and discover a relational approach to support your child’s nervous system.
Discover why play isn’t just for kids. Learn how adults can benefit from small, joyful, and playful moments — with your kids or on your own — to boost connection, laughter, and well-being.
Feeling stuck in parenting challenges? See how noticing tiny moments of connection — or ‘glimmers’ — can transform your relationship with your child.
A powerful parenting reframe for challenging kids: how seeing your child as having a hard time—not giving one—can change connection and behavior.
Discover why real change with sensitive, strong-willed kids starts in the parent—not the child. Learn how steadiness, not control, breaks power struggles and helps your child thrive.
Struggling to stay calm with your sensitive child? Learn why regulation often looks boring, why doing less is more effective, and how slowing down transforms your parenting and your child’s nervous system.
