Have you ever thought, “If only my partner would parent differently, life would be so much easier?”
You’re not alone.
Parenting differences are incredibly common--and incredibly frustrating.
Especially when raising a highly sensitive child.
The good news?
You don’t have to agree on everything to be an amazing team.
Instead of trying to change your partner, try these three strategies to create more harmony:
1️⃣ Get Curious, Not Combative
Instead of reacting with frustration, try asking, “Help me understand what's most important to you in this situation?”
Your partner has a good reason for what they do as a parent.
When we assume good intentions, and seek to understand, we are more likely to get good will and openness in return.
Most parenting comes from a place of deep love. When we understand our partner’s heart and thinking, we are more likely to find areas of common ground.
2️⃣ Appreciate the Balance
Parenting differences can actually benefit children!
Parenting differences can be complementary. Different perspectives makes the family system stronger.
Think of the differences like having different types of tools in a toolbox, rather than having a hammer only.
With diverse tools, you can fix more things than if you only had a hammer.
3️⃣ Lead by Example
The best way to influence your partner’s parenting?
Show, don’t tell.
When one parent can stay calm during a meltdown, or hold a peaceful boundary—the other partner is way more likely to adopt what works.
When children respond positively, your partner will be noticing.
Leading by example is incredibly powerful.
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Would you love to be on the same parenting page with your partner or coparent?
Would you love a more peaceful, connected home? Let’s talk.
Together, I’d love to help you and/or your partner break patterns that aren’t serving you and your family.
Maybe you’d like to be better at staying calm and not losing your temper. Maybe your partner wants to do this.
Maybe you’re fighting with your kids over every little thing. Maybe your preschooler only wants one parent, and you’re not sure how to change this pattern.
Whatever the challenge is, I’d love to help create a more peaceful home for you and your family.