Why punishments backfire
Maybe you're still using punishments?
I used to, and many of my coaching clients do when we start working together.
Yes, they will make your kid behave short term. But longterm they work against parents.
They poison the parent child relationship; demonstrate using power to get your way; and make kids more focused on their own self-interest.
I believe we all WANT to parent without punishments, it's just hard to figure out what to do instead sometimes. Contact me. Let's chat. We'll make a plan for what to do instead.
Life is better on the other side. I promise.
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